The Doer

Everyone has conflicting basic needs. Each of them is essential for survival. This makes sense and helps us to control ourselves.

Enforcement wants to get ahead, whatever the cost. What if life were endangered as a result? Without our need for safety, we would have died long ago. Rationality seeks truth, sense and logical connections. But the reactions of our fellow human beings are usually shaped by their emotions. Reason alone does not help us. Recognition wants to be seen. A baby that doesn’t cry has little chance. The need to belong later determines whether and how we adapt, because we cannot survive on our own.

Every personality sets its own priorities, usually from birth. For the doer, enforcement and rationality are most important.

We can imagine the interaction of these basic needs as an inner team in which the strengths and competencies are activated depending on the situation and our needs.

The team is usually led by enforcement (red) and rationality (black). Enforcement loves empathy (white), because this type of orientation delivers ideas and fantasies a thousand times faster than we can think. Rationality needs information from and about other people. For this, it likes to use the communicative skills of belonging (yellow).

**A doer wants to do something. In the inner team it could look like this:

• Red has a desire for new successes.
• Black researches and analyzes the logical processes.
• White empathizes with those affected.
• Yellow explains how to communicate the new story.

A division of tasks is not yet an agreement. These ‘deities’ in our souls do not allow themselves to be told what to do, not even by the need to assert themselves.

**How do recognition and safety react? Recognition says: “If you want to come into your own, you have to somehow set yourself apart from others. You have to look after yourself (this starts shortly after birth with a powerful cry) and show that “you are there”. An acclaimed star is the best way to show that you exist. Nevertheless, self-reference often has an introverted effect. We want to be and remain recognizable as a special person. This need hates uniformity and wants to stand out from the crowd. What others do is to be viewed critically.” The recognition god wants to be proud of himself.

Safety adds: “Everything new involves risks. If you put yourself in danger, you will die. If you don’t take care of your own life, you will quickly lose it. You have to be vigilant and thoughtful if you want to get through life in one piece. It’s about sustainability. We strive for continuity and reliability. Everything that is important or could become important should be protected. We should be alert at all times so that we can recognize and avoid risks at an early stage.” The safety god loves consistency.

The doer realizes:

**If the inner team wants to agree on common paths, it needs an attractive vision that everyone agrees with.

The search is on for a future scenario that satisfies all six opposing basic needs.

Which topics are interesting and exciting enough to get our inner diversity in tune?

Body (facts, technology, physics …) Soul (emotions, music, theater …) Mind (culture, faith, philosophy …)

Past (history, controlling, causal research …) Present (sensing, transportation, processing …) Future (development, medicine, health …)

Individual (beauty, training, time management …) Partner (mediation, care, coaching …) Group (communication, health, study programs …)

In this way, 27 fields can be defined that the doer could be passionate about, for example body-future-individual. What he chooses depends on his previous experience, his preferences or hobbies.

Perhaps the doer wants to start a small business that helps interested entrepreneurs realize their own building and renovation projects.

With this first idea, clarification begins (usually unconsciously) within the inner team.

Enforcement: Yes. It’s something new and an exciting challenge. Rationality: Yes. The topic is exciting and makes sense. It can be realized.

Empathy: Yes. It could be an important contribution where people learn something good for themselves. Belonging: Yes. There will usually be many friends working with the professionals.

Safety: I need to think about the risks involved. How will the financial provision be secured by then? Well, if both are okay, then I’m happy to do it. Recognition: Yes. I’m creating something unique and important.

The better we succeed in integrating all emotional aspects, i.e. all conflicting basic needs, into this idea, the more we feel the enthusiasm and energy within us. The entire emotional world is behind us. We are carried by positive emotions. It will be a joy to achieve this goal.

Fantasy outings are typical for doers and this is how they learn how to integrate opposing basic needs.

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